>be me, 33M >date this super hot, super manipulative girl, 23F, a year ago >turned her down for a serious relationship even though I had feelings for her, had doubts, red flags everywhere >she lost it, insulted me, made scenes, tried to get me kicked out of our gym >she got a new boyfriend immediately after, guy mustve been lined up already >no closure, just silence, we both moved on
>we see each other at the gym regularly, she ignores me completely >cold shoulder for almost a year, avoids even looking at me >she knows I have a gf >people tell me shes talking with her bf about me all the time while working out, how shit I am and what not >asks a staff member about how I'm doing, if there's any news about me
>last Tuesday, we see each other at the gym again >later that night, she sends me a WhatsApp message >deletes it before I can read it >still blocked by her, so she had to unblock me, type the message, send the message. cant be an accident.
>next time at the gym, she acts different >normally avoids looking at me, now she's facing me more, seems more approachable >still doesn’t talk, but it feels like she wants me to notice her
>what’s her angle? testing me, fishing for attention, or something else? she still has her bf and brings him to the gym from time to time
I would never message her, because we are both in relationships and I have no interest in her being able to spread rumors that I tried to reach out or contact her. she doesnt seem to care about these things. It's kind of a boundary violation. The fact that she messaged me shows a lack of respect and impulse control. I have given her absolutely no reason to contact me. There's nothing we need to discuss or coordinate.
I’d list all the shit she pulled on me, but this post would be way too long. I was always patient with her (probably made her think I'm weak), but I’ve had enough of her games and want to teach her some respect. how?>>32931006 She had no qualms about walking away from you. Those red flags are still there anon. Maybe even had another added (constantly talking with current bf about previous bf). It's not your job to teach her anything. Don't give her attention, just do your own thing.
